On reflection of 2010, it was a very “bitter-sweet” year for Positive Parties, thus the lack of latest news for the past 2 months.
Throughout 2010 the setting up of Positive Parties, launching the website and marketing materials has all been a very exciting venture for me, Founder – Denise Devlin. The very first Positive Party was delivered to Derry’s Pink Ladies on the 25th May, meanwhile an application had been made to the Intellectual Property Office to trade mark the name, which was passed by late August. Other parties followed for Women In Enterprise and St Cecilia’s College, while the summer was spent on designing the website and continuing with the marketing plan.
On 22nd October the launch of the website was held in the City of Culture offices in Derry. It was a brilliant day and I was delighted with the turn out from Positive Party goers, people popping in, WIE members, friends and family. In my speech I said “I have a dream and I know I deserve this dream to come true.” This is an affirmation from Louise Hay which is stuck on the desk lamp by my computer.
After the launch I took a well earned break and enjoyed spending half term with my husband and children. My five year old commented that I been working too much and because they’d been to the Positive Party launch, was that it over now? “No more talking about Positive Parties please mummy!” That was me totally grounded again anyway!!
Inquiries and bookings were coming in and I was relishing in the whole ‘sweetness’ of it all. Then two and a half weeks after the launch I received a phone call at 12 noon on the 10th Nov that would change the lives of so many forever. My Auntie Pauline (who was like a big sister to me) and Uncle Killian were in tragic accident involving carbon monoxide poisoning and their funerals were 6 days apart. This was such a shock and the heartbreak and pain to both family circles was unreal, especially to their two children Laura (24) and James (20).
While everyone was coping with this devastating event in their own way, mine was to put a halt on Positive Parties until the New Year. To be quite honest there were some days that I felt I would never be able to deliver a Positive Party ever again. My website is full of how the Parties can give you tools and techniques towards a joyful attitude to life and I doubted if I would ever feel joy again either. Surrounded by very supportive friends and with the knowing that I had to practice what I preach, I took time to feel my feelings (grieve), be gentle on myself (self care) and had the awareness to know when my body needed rest or exercise and my mind to clear (meditation).
Now as this “bitter-sweet” year of 2010 has passed I welcome 2011 with knowledge that I do have all the resources within me to cope with whatever life sends. The lovely memories I have of Killian and Pauline: as bridesmaid at their wedding, the excitement when I was asked at 20 years old to be their daughter’s godmother, sentimentality crying at their 25th wedding anniversary last year and so many more will sustain me on sadder moments. These two beautiful people lived life to the full and they were loved and cherished by so many. They were role model parents in the way they listened, loved and adored their children, never criticizing and always supporting them. They are in the light now and only a thought away.